Monday, May 9, 2016

Life is about giving Joy a taking pain - 5

Feeling Connected : Joy

By now you might have guessed what I mean Joy could be different than happiness. Actually it is. You can manifest happiness at will but joy is something you will have to strive. Some people many be just be content with the happiness and there is nothing wrong in it. But we are not here in this planet just to be happy we all have a much higher purpose. Think as if all your fingers have some kind of feeling and feeling and it found a way to be happy and content and did not participate in the purpose of holding a object in your hand. Would it fulfill its higher purpose. We all come to this earth with a after a lot of struggle and suffering and we all have a higher purpose. We all are part of a much bigger consciousness and we are just offshoot of those consciousness. So our goal can not just be happy our goal is to gain eternal bliss which is sometimes refereed in eastern philosophies as "Mokshya" which you can only strive towards your higher purpose. We are going to talk about in future parts. Now what is a higher purpose. To understand a higher purpose we need to understand what we actually are. Now no one in this world truly and fully understand what are are. If you talk to a scientist or a person from medical field.He will say we are a biological living organism who is adopted into the environment of planet earth and we have manifested through millions of years of evolution. Which started as a single cellular organism in a warm soupy ocean in the earth to a multi cellular organism like a fish and reptile or bird or mammals and finally to monkeys to us. They are actually correct in ways. If you ask a theologian , depending on which religion he follows he will tell god created this universe in 7 days and in the 7th day he created a male and female Adam and Eve who then in turn created us. Now he is no incorrect either. If you take into account gods days could be much different than us as time is relative so we can not scientifically refute that its not correct. Some scientist may argue what... we have evidence of  evolution we have fossil records of things evolving. Now to that point I would say lot of things in the theology are not meant to be interpretative of  a detailed record of fact because it deliberately misses the details. There is no written documentation of what God did to create the world. Now its like a parable of three blind men where all of them went to a elephant and one hold it legs and said an elephant is like a tree trunk and the second went in and he hold its trunk and said its like a fire hose made with rubber and the third man went and hold the ear and said its a like a think piece of leather. Now how can a elephant be three radically different things ; are they all wrong . No in fact they are all correct. When a concept or something is much bigger than the observer which we are at this case there will be multiple version of fact and they could be all correct. Take an example we being the most intelligent species on the planet and earth being the only place we known , but still for thousands of year we have been believing the earth is flat as its so much order of magnitude bigger than anything in our experience we never had a clue how can we stand and not fall over on anything that is spherical. It took us to create telescope and look at the other planets and then do some real convincing to get to the point that earth actually being spherical and being an enormous size than us we do not fall over and it appears flat to us. Similarly think as if you are an ant climbing on an Eiffel tower would would have any clue what is the shape of the tower. The only way to understand anything by any real means we would have disassociate that thing from the observer and then try to understand from a disassociated point of view. Now how would we disassociate from life without being in heaven to observer the life to understand it. We can not by any known means. So if we can not be certain of it then it may be in our best interest to use any hypothesis if that gives us some desirable result and ignore any hypothesis that takes us away from desirable result.

Now some scientist may say the biological purpose of any living organism are here in earth is to survive and reproduce. Now if you look closely survival and reproduction are very inter related. We are indeed surviving by reproducing among other ways of survival mechanism we have like healing , immunity and regeneration. So is that it. In a way it is. But there is something special which we have only within us that make us different than may be a something that is not living. That is consciousness which could be the key to understanding the life. We all including all animals have consciousness and we are aware of our existence. But the only reason I will exclude animals for this discussion as their consciousness is little less developed than humans , that does not mean they are not totally off limit from discussion of the topic. So all humans basically share a type of realization of existence that is consciousness which is the connective source in human. Its like all leaf of the  tree are connected by the tree sap that flows among all of them making them all part of the same tree. However for a moment think as if you are a leaf you have a independent existence and you feel as if you a different from other leafs. Which is actually true as you born and die as a leaf which has a different cycle from the other leafs however if you only realize you are a leaf and you will do everything to make sure you as a leaf will survive and thrive without any realization that you are part of a bigger thing called a tree you are probably leaving not up to the bigger purpose. There is no denying the fact that we have our own will and choice which could be different. However if a cell or a leaf only focuses on thriving and reproduce taking all the resources of the plant or an organism it will just grow into a cancerous tumor and ultimately end up in catastrophe not just for the entire part of the growth but may be for the entire organism itself. So its very critical to feel the higher connection and realize that just like a single leaf we are part of a tree and to be healthy and fulfilled the tree as a whole has to be healthy and fulfilled.  Now you may say I am such a small part and I do not think I can really contribute in a meaningful way. Have you thought if every leaf in a plant thinks the same and don't contribute to the plant for food utilizing photosynthesis then the whole plant might slowly decay and weaken and then die ultimately killing the leaf as well. So the first thing to do is to realize that we are part of a higher consciousness which includes every type of consciousness from a small living organism like a fish or a small shrub to bigger life forms like whale. We are all connected through a single thread which is consciousness even though we do not realize them. So first thing we would need to do to feel the joy and bliss is to share a sense of empathy towards all living creatures as if they are the leaves of the same tree we are part of. Once we have build the empathy for everyone we will slowly realize the connected link that we have long lost and share the same energy that flows through the collective consciousness. Once we get connected to everyone and every living organism we will slowly share all the pleasure that any living organism share like you can be delighted to see a squirrel jumping from a tree to tree holding a nut or a rabbit munching a carrots as if its the first carrot he has ever eaten. You will also feel the same for other people and share their pleasure. And moreover this realization and practice of the realization will liberate you from the smaller daily setbacks.

Friday, May 6, 2016

Life is about giving Joy a taking pain - 4

Feeling Connected : Joy
Now you know how to invoke your best feeling in a single instance at will at any time. The next important thing is practice. Its all about practice in life. Humans or any living being are so beautiful creation we lose what we do not practice so that we can gain what we practice. Actually living beings are like play dough the colorful clay that kids play with making them in different shapes and sizes. Once we become something we are no longer the old thing until we get back to the old thing. We have potential to be anything but we are only one thing at any point of time. For example you can not be happy and sad at the same time. You can not be calm and angry at the same time. You can not be anxious and blissful at the same time or you can not be at pain and at ease at the same time.
So what make a person in some way or the other. Its Habit. We are what we habitually do. Think about you may have been a great skate boarder when you are a child and you have not been skateboarding for a while , most likely you would not skateboard as well as you could do earlier. That is because you only have a limited amount of bandwidth in your immediate subconscious mind which is what directs yous day to day life. For example if you brush everyday before going to bed and you have been doing that try going to bed without brushing; probably you would not even have a good sleep that day. So the key is practice. Our mind is always practicing whether you like it or not.We either practice a good thing that makes you feel good or if we do not do it we by default practice something negative. Actually there is nothing which is really negative , which is a really a very controversial topic that we may touch later. You either practice something that is productive that pulls your towards your goal or enhances your capability in ways you desire, or you do not practice something productive or towards happiness. Think about your life is ship that is travelling towards a specific port. This analogy is not entirely correct as it never stops when the port is reached. But for easy understanding lets consider this. You are in the high seas and you need to travel north continuously to reach your destination port so you would need to make sure every day or every hour its headed toward north ; but what happens when you lose your direction or compass. Now you do not have a direction in your ship and the ship will wonder around in the high seas rather than heading towards your goal or destination. Now you let it roam around for a week and after a week comeback and check how much closer your ship from the destination port and you would just get frustrated, then still you did do anything to make the ship heading in the right direction and then you come back after a month to see  how closer your ship is from the destination port , you may be even more frustrated it may  be even farther when you started your journey. So its very important to keep a very close eye on the direction of your ship or life and make every possible step every possible time to guild it in the right direction. Now this is a common mistake in Humans. We always do not get our ships in control and our mind may say you have been doing this for a full week now, take some rest and chill. Its boring persevere doing it every day each day take a break and indulge in something you love to do , do some party , drink some beers , your destination is not going away you have done so much steering your ship in the right direction. Now all these indulgences are nothing but something that leaves your ships direction in disarray. Think you are in a cruise ship and the captain has been guiding towards a port and he decided to party for a few hours without making sure to leave someone a the helm. Keeping the same thing every day could be monotonous but its what you become as part of the journey that matter. If you would like to indulge in something make sure you have planned what would you do to make up for the lost time or lost motivation. You need to practice something or some way you would like to make as a habit as many times as possible until the habit is ingrained in who you are.   Once it becomes ingrained into your identity or your own reflection you do not have to get any motivation to do it rather the habit itself will motivate you to continue with the habit. So its very important to make sure which habits you want and which you do not. As per a recent study we need to practice something 66 days straight to make it a habit. So I will recommend to practice at least 4-5 times a day for 66 days straight. I know its not a trivial task but having a eternal happiness at will is not trivial either.  

Monday, May 2, 2016

Life is about giving Joy a taking pain - 3

Feeling Connected : Joy

What is the human nature. Human nature is basically to being your current state of inertia unless you get some kind of external impact.  Just sit back and think if you are who you are and you have nothing to do , nothing to prove and nothing to be what you would rather do. Would you be calm , probably yes. Would you be poised and complete ; probably yes. But there is always a big but why does almost all people are never calm and poised. Its so simple to achieve. Because you will really have a hard time to control your emotions , and thoughts as just like your heart its a continuous process and never stops. You can not have a single thoughts for 2 mins unless you practice meditation and the brain has all you emotions stored in a single space and even if you think you control your thoughts you do not. Unless your brain stores similar thoughts in a single place and organizes it in a correct order you can not control your thoughts. At this moment when I am writing this I am thinking 10 different things like I need to work on my typing skills , my communication skills needs improvement , I need to fill out that form which I am procrastinating for so many days and so on.. Sometimes you would also have contradicting thoughts as they are also stored in the same places in your brain and because there is a connecting piece they are even more closely connected. So how would you really isolate your thoughts , there is only one way available as far as I know to make your brain organized. That is meditation. Just like if your desk is really not organized when you are looking for something you can not easily and quickly get it without really taking a long time  or messing up your who desk or you have 100 file on your desk without any specific order or in any specific way.Then to get to a specific file you would have to juggle through a lot of the files before getting to the file you have been looking for. We have a lot of sensory inputs like touch, taste , see, smell and hear which feed to our experience and makes our memory. These inputs together make our specific memory or feeling so if we would like to make a memory the more number of sensory inputs we associated something with the better. Think you have met with your person of dreams and he/she is exactly how you had imagined. You want to a calm beach resort restaurant in the first date and where there was salty smell of ocean with warm sand and you were tasting a exquisite red wine holding their hand while the waves are breaking on the shore while you feel the soft sand on your feet with a full moon glistening over the ocean. How likely you would forget this encounter. Probably never. And if at any point of time you would like to go back to that exact moment in your imagination how difficult would it be? probably not very difficult. Because you have every type of sensory input associated with the event noted in your brain and to find that exact feeling you just need to enact or remember one of the sensory inputs. Ever wondered why if you have a special cologne which you wore in your cruise vacation last year and whenever you wore it it reminds you of the vacation time and you feed good about it and it becomes your favorite cologne. Lets take an example where you got a dictionary where all the words are stored in a random order and you are looking for a single word how difficult would it be. Probably you would need at least few hours to get to the word if you do not give up finding the word in between. But think its a dictionary where all words are sorted and organized and you are looking for a word and you also know exactly which page the word is.And also on top of it any word in that dictionary is color coded green for positive connotation , red for negative connotation and yellow for neutral connotation. Now how long would it take to find the exact words. Probably within a min at max. This is the power of indexing and sorting anything. This is also applicable for your brain power.
Now you may be thinking why I have been talking so different things that are not connected to joy. But actually they are. If you need to experience joy first you would have to remember its not outside situation that make you feed joy or sad. Its your internal response that make it. Now if you would like to control your thoughts or move away from a negative thoughts to a joyous one. You need to first create a joyous situation it does not matter if its in real or in your mind. Then associate as many sensory inputs that you can associate with that joyous thought.Then feed the same sensory inputs in a periodic manner and contemplate the thoughts to make that feeling reside in your immediate memory rather than in distant memory. Then make a habit to invoke the exact sensory inputs to recreate the situation in your mind at will or in a periodic manner or when you realize you are not feeling joyous.

Now lets take an example to make the whole thing little more simple. Suppose you want to be always to be happy in spite of the situation. Now as I said earlier feeling joy or sorrow is a response to any situation ; that means you can create the feeling of joy at will in any situation. Or you can create the feeling of meditation in your work schedule even while you are in meeting. Here is a step by step approach..

Step 1.  Create a great joyous situation may be in real or in your mind.

For example.  Take a wonderful vacation to a pacific island with a magnificent beach with your spouse and kids.Lets think you went to to your own island Fiji and you are in your private beach front mansion. You and your spouse are walking on this delicate soft white sand while the cool green waves touching your feet and making you a feeling of cool sensation while you have this feeling of warm sands .While your kids are playing on the sand and making a sand castle. You are now feeling the a cool breeze with a salty oceanic smell that is coming through beautiful and fragrant flowers making a salty floral vibe.You are also hearing to the soft tweeting sound of of a wonderful variety of birds coming from the jungle near the beach and the breaking of the waves on the shore making it a delectable music to your ears. Now you have got yourself a little fruit salad with tropical fruits like Pinapple , Mango , Passion Fruit with a refreshing and sweet coconut water. You are thinking at this time " Life is heavenly "  watching the jade green water of the ocean where you can see all the colorful tropical fish swimming in the water.

Step 2.  Note all the sensory inputs here.
Smell:   The smell of a salty breeze with the aroma of tropical flower and fruits with coconot
Sound:  Ocean waves Breaking. Birds chirping.
Vision:  Jade green water.Warm White Sands. Deep blue Sky.
Touch:   Soft powdery Feeling of the warm sand. Cool Breeze. Cool wave breaking on feet.
Taste:    Cool and subtle coconut.  Sweet and slightly sour taste of tropical fruits like pineapple and mango
Thoughts: Heavenly. Calm. Relaxed. Blissful.

Step 3: Recreate the heavenly feeling at will at any time.
Smell: The easiest part recreating this feeling is through the smell. Get a cologne with salty oceanic vibe and fruity and coconut notes. Or you can add more than one cologne to make this smell. Do not use this as your daily wear.  Spray this special cologne in a handkerchief and have that in your pocket.
Sound: Have a music in your smart phone with sounds of Ocean waves , Birds Chirping and soft breeze blowing
Vision : Surround yourself with paintings of a beautiful island of your dream and you  pictures taken in the island in any way possible but not at places where you will have to see them every time you open it. May be in your wallet. But little away from every days things otherwise you will fall into having that picture as being the cliche.
Touch: This is the toughest part. Have a special stress ball which is having sandy and soft texture. Sqeeze it when you like to recreate the feeling
Taste:  Have a chewing gum with tropical fruit. Or have a tropical trail mix with dried coconut chunks and tropical fruit.