Life is about giving Joy a taking pain - 4

Feeling Connected : Joy

Now you know how to invoke your best feeling in a single instance at will at any time. The next important thing is practice. Its all about practice in life. Humans or any living being are so beautiful creation we lose what we do not practice so that we can gain what we practice. Actually living beings are like play dough the colorful clay that kids play with making them in different shapes and sizes. Once we become something we are no longer the old thing until we get back to the old thing. We have potential to be anything but we are only one thing at any point of time. For example you can not be happy and sad at the same time. You can not be calm and angry at the same time. You can not be anxious and blissful at the same time or you can not be at pain and at ease at the same time.

So what make a person in some way or the other. Its Habit. We are what we habitually do. Think about you may have been a great skate boarder when you are a child and you have not been skateboarding for a while , most likely you would not skateboard as well as you could do earlier. That is because you only have a limited amount of bandwidth in your immediate subconscious mind which is what directs yous day to day life. For example if you brush everyday before going to bed and you have been doing that try going to bed without brushing; probably you would not even have a good sleep that day. So the key is practice. Our mind is always practicing whether you like it or not.We either practice a good thing that makes you feel good or if we do not do it we by default practice something negative. Actually there is nothing which is really negative , which is a really a very controversial topic that we may touch later. You either practice something that is productive that pulls your towards your goal or enhances your capability in ways you desire, or you do not practice something productive or towards happiness. Think about your life is ship that is travelling towards a specific port. This analogy is not entirely correct as it never stops when the port is reached. But for easy understanding lets consider this. You are in the high seas and you need to travel north continuously to reach your destination port so you would need to make sure every day or every hour its headed toward north ; but what happens when you lose your direction or compass. Now you do not have a direction in your ship and the ship will wonder around in the high seas rather than heading towards your goal or destination. Now you let it roam around for a week and after a week comeback and check how much closer your ship from the destination port and you would just get frustrated, then still you did do anything to make the ship heading in the right direction and then you come back after a month to see  how closer your ship is from the destination port , you may be even more frustrated it may  be even farther when you started your journey. So its very important to keep a very close eye on the direction of your ship or life and make every possible step every possible time to guild it in the right direction. Now this is a common mistake in Humans. We always do not get our ships in control and our mind may say you have been doing this for a full week now, take some rest and chill. Its boring persevere doing it every day each day take a break and indulge in something you love to do , do some party , drink some beers , your destination is not going away you have done so much steering your ship in the right direction. Now all these indulgences are nothing but something that leaves your ships direction in disarray. Think you are in a cruise ship and the captain has been guiding towards a port and he decided to party for a few hours without making sure to leave someone a the helm. Keeping the same thing every day could be monotonous but its what you become as part of the journey that matter. If you would like to indulge in something make sure you have planned what would you do to make up for the lost time or lost motivation. You need to practice something or some way you would like to make as a habit as many times as possible until the habit is ingrained in who you are.   Once it becomes ingrained into your identity or your own reflection you do not have to get any motivation to do it rather the habit itself will motivate you to continue with the habit. So its very important to make sure which habits you want and which you do not. As per a recent study we need to practice something 66 days straight to make it a habit. So I will recommend to practice at least 4-5 times a day for 66 days straight. I know its not a trivial task but having a eternal happiness at will is not trivial either.